Foto: La mia prima visita a Starbucks, Mosca. Luglio 2015.
Oggi ho voluto scrivere in italiano. Forse é per l'ambiente a Starbuck con jazz italiano suonando di fondo, forse il buon caffè, chi lo sa! Il caso é che mi fa felice scrivere in questa bella lingua, e così voglio che sia.
Questa sera non ho dormito, dovrei sentirmi stanchissima, un po lo sono, ma il desiderio di stare in contatto con voi mi risveglia, mi sostiene.
Oggi é una bella giornata, c'è il sole, a Mosca non é la norma, dove abito da poco tempo. Qua non ho amici, ho soltanto il mio ragazzo ed il mio gatto, Fifo. Loro mi sono molto cari, li amo, ma amo anche il resto del mondo, amo condividere le cose belle della vita che mi capitano ogni giorno, anche perché so che tanti, ma tanti di voi, non riuscite a vederle.
Non voglio sentenziare, anch'io, a volte, non riesco a vederle le cose belle pur avendole sotto il mio naso. Oggi, nonostante, anche se non ho dormito nelle ultime quarantotto ore, mi sento inspirata, posseduta da Dio, il mio proprio Dio, la mia musa.
Ti é mai successo di sentirti sconnessa della realtà? Cioè, quella che una volta era la tua realtà e d'un colpo é cambiata? Il cambio é inevitabile. Conosco questo sentimento benissimo, ho vissuto tanti cambi nella mia vita. Il bello é che non ho più paura del cambio perche so che fa parte della vita, del progresso, del ciclo.
Uno dei cambi più difficili é quello di cambiare Paese, specialmente se si tratta di un luogo dove si parla un’altra lingua, e non conosci nessuno. É una dura prova ma, credimi, é solo un periodo. Bisogna essere forti per affrontare questi cambi che all’inizio ci colpiscono molto emozionalmente. Tutto sommato abbiamo preso questa decisione per un motivo, no? Allora dobbiamo continuare con il nostro proposito. Arrendersi non rende le cose più facili giacché il rimpianto per non aver lottato abbastanza per i nostri sogni é ancora piu difficile da mandare giu. Ma cosa fare quando il cambio colpisce? Quando magari cammini per strada chiedendo alla vita un segnale, chiedendo a te stessa, cosa faccio?
Foto: Io appena arrivata a Mosca, Luglio 2015.
Ecco le mie maniere di affrontare queste, chiamiamole 'paure'.
La prima cosa che faccio sempre é ritornare all’inizio del mio cammino, ricordare le decisioni che ho preso in passato, sentire la paura che ho sentito in quel momento, e domandarmi: ne é valsa la pena? La risposta é sempre SI, perche é grazie a quelle decisioni se ora sono piu forte di prima.
Un'altra maniera de porre fine a questi sentimenti negativi é rimanere in contatto con le persone amate, famiglia, amici, e aprirti a loro, sicuramente loro ti diranno delle parole che ti daranno piu forza per andare avanti.
Cominciare un hobby che involucri altri, é un modo di fare amicizie e di occupare la tua mente non solo ad Analizzare la tua vita ma a viverla, che é così d'importante.
Ricordare che le preoccupazioni non aiutano, anzi, peggiorano la situazione perche avrai meno energie per continuare la tua strada. (Lo so, dirai, ma come faccio a non preoccuparmi? É molto difficile controllare una mente preoccupata ma ci sono tanti metodi, il più efficace secondo me é la meditazione, ogni giorno trenta minuti o un'ora di meditazione farà una grande differenza)
Impara l'idiosincrasia di questo nuovo paese, esci, sarai sorpresa di quante cose belle troverai, la bellezza é dappertutto.
Per ultimo, abbi fede, la fede muove il mondo. Ricorda che hai un sogno, solo quelli che credono nella bellezza dei propri sogni li realizzano.
Spero che almeno uno dei miei suggerimenti ti sia utile.
Ti sei mai trovata-o in circostanze come questa? Cosa ti ha aiutato di più ad andare avanti davanti ad un cambio così grande? Mi farebbe molto piacere sentire la tua storia.
Ti é piaciuto questo post in italiano? Se vuoi che continui a pubblicare in italiano, per favore, fammi sapere con il tuo commento.
Grazie mille per leggere e per condividere la tua opinione, é molto importante per me.
Se vuoi aiutarmi anche a migliorare il mio italiano, sono aperta a ricevere la tua critica.
(In questa opportunità, ringrazio tantissimo Anna Assenza per collaborare con la correzione di questo testo).
Un sacco di amore,
Caption: Moscow State University.
As you may already know, I recently moved to Moscow. My boyfriend is Russian and what is more, Moscow is a great city. I was aware of the fact that by moving to Moscow I was going to face two big obstacles. The first one: the weather, which affected me a lot during the winter months. I took action and managed to thrive. I wrote an article about how to deal with extreme winter.
The second main obstacle I encountered was the language barrier: it is extremely difficult to meet people with whom you can have a conversation in English here. Most people are not willing to even try. My boyfriend’s friends do speak English, I believe the last generation does, but on a daily basis solving problems when we don’t speak the same language is almost impossible.
Because I don’t like the word impossible; and because I know that there is nothing impossible when there's hard work, determination and desire; I decided to take seriously my commitment to learn the language.
I want to share with you three benefits of learning new languages plus some tips on how to learn them easily. Although we all have our own way to adsorb knowledge, it is never a waste to try a new method. I speak four languages and this is what that's done for me.
1- Your understanding of the world becomes wider.
There is an expression that says ‘the world is so small,’ and yes, it is small, but it is also wide and infinite, you see; it depends on how you want to look at it. You need more than a lifetime to see all the beauty that mother nature offers to us and to enjoy it in its fulness.
I also humbly believe that we are eternal and sometimes it is enough to just see a bit farther, step by step. You may be surprised by what you may encounter every time you move forward.
If you have ever read the children’s book The Little Prince by Saint-Exupéry you will understand what I mean. On his little planet, he had a rose which he took care off, she was his only company. One day he decided to explore new planets. He loved his rose but he thought she was taking advantage of him. He abandoned her and she, despite her vanity, encouraged him to go ahead.
The Prince visited six other asteroids before he arrived on Earth. He saw many things on the other planets but what surprised him the most was to find there were many other roses like his rose, which he had thought unique. But he also met a fox who taught him a different language -‘Domestication’.
He taught him some important life lessons: ‘It is the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important.’ He taught him also that 'One sees clearly only with the heart. Anything essential is invisible to the eyes.'
The main point here is the ability to be able to communicate in different languages, including the language of the heart, can make our life experience richer.
2- It’s easier to socialise, therefore, to make new friends along the journey.
Continuing with the story of The Little Prince, which is my favourite children's book: in the story, a pilot's plane crashes in the Sahara dessert, far from civilisation, where he meets the little prince. He is impressed by the little prince's wisdom, good heart and love for his planet.
They develop a strong affection for each other and despite the pilot (the narrator) loosing sight of the prince in the end, he keeps the memory of him in his heart, remembering what the little prince said:
'In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing. And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing, when you look at the sky at night... You - only you - will have stars that can laugh.'
How beautiful it is to make true friends when we travel; when we speak the same language, we can connect on a deeper level. Living in London, I made friends from all over the world and this experience made me realise that we are all the same, we are all human beings with the same need for love, understanding and respect. Once you get this picture, you only speak one language, the universal language, which is love.
3- It opens many doors. You may even find love, simply because speaking the same language helps you connect (it’s been the case for me).
After finishing my studies in London, I returned to Costa Rica. My plan was to go back to London and continue my education with a master's degree in film. During those days in Costa Rica, a good friend of mine, that I hadn’t seen in a long time, told me she also was in Costa Rica.
I took the opportunity to visit her at the beach where she was staying with her family. Funnily, the next day I woke up in the morning and went straight to the pool where I saw a guy smiling at me and we engaged in a conversation in English - he was Russian and my mother tongue is Spanish.
It would have been impossible for us to engage in such great conversation if we hadn’t learnt English. From that day onwards we didn’t stop talking, and sharing, and even laughing in English, hahahaha! It's been almost three years since then.
Caption: Me at The Moscow State University. Impressed by it beauty.
My tips for you are these:
- Learn words by yourself; when you accumulate a modest vocabulary try to make friends. Then study grammar.
- You can go to courses, you can do it online by yourself; I use YouTube in many cases.
- Try to read, start with simple books. Watch TV or movies without subtitles, it is a way to train your brain.
- Listen to music and sing the song with the lyrics, try to memorise the song even though you don’t understand the meaning, eventually you will.
- Every time you will have the opportunity to talk to someone that speaks the language you are learning, don’t be shy, engage in a conversation, they will understand that you are learning, no reason to be ashamed.
- Have fun during the process, whatever you do with passion will be worthy of your time. Most important - be patient.
How has knowing another language changed your life?
Or is it your big desire to learn a new language?
What is your biggest struggle with the learning process?
I’d love to hear your story and how I can help you on this journey.
Tons of love,
Caption: Costa Rican model, Glenda.
What makes you smile? Do you remember the last time you laughed so much that your jaw hurt? Those are moments we never forget, after all, smiling is one of the habits happy people possess. Smiling is a sign of freedom; we don’t have anything to control, we let go and enjoy the present moment.
“We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.” - Mother Teresa
I feel blessed to have been born in Cuba. I was taught to smile even in the worst scenarios; for example, during the hardest embargo in the 90s, when we had to cut down the daily amount of food we consumed to be able to survive the rest of the month, as we could only afford what the government gave us, I smiled everyday. I did so through all the years I lived there! We all did it, we even smiled and laughed at our own problems. We danced through them. You could see it in the domino players on the street, the musicians, the young people enjoying the fresh air of Malecón, the woman with the cigar..., even stray dogs smile in Cuba.
In fact, I've found that one of the best ways to cope with my episodes of anxiety is by smiling. Luckily, I am aware of my problems and of the fact that I need to work on them by myself. One of the therapies I use is dance. I love dancing because it always makes me smile. The other thing I do is watching comedy series. Two of my favourites are Married with Children (the Argentinian version) and Friends. The power of a smile is synonymous to good emotional health.
And last but not least, I watch my cat play - it is glorious! If you have a pet, pay attention as he/she plays or try playing with him/her. You will be surprised how it will put a smile on your face when you least expect it.
Whatever message you send to your brain, it will believe it to be true. Anthony Robbins always says “emotion comes from motion”. For instance, if you smile you are sending a message to your brain that says, "I am having a great time, I am alive." It’s been scientifically proven that when we smile, certain muscles in our face activate the part of the brain that increases happiness. In my case it has also increased wrinkles, proud of them anyway (lol), it’s part of LIVING life.
If you cry or worry, on the other hand, the message is a negative one. It's alerts the brain of a problem, then your body will react by giving you stress.
There is a study by Japan Advanced Institute of Science and Technology called “Relations between Body Motion and Emotion: Analysis based on Laban Movement Analysis”.
In no way am I suggesting that you spend your precious time reading what scientists have written about motions and the power of smiling. I rather invite you to try. SMILE NOW! Hold a smile for one minute even if you don’t feel like you want to do it and let me know how was the result. Go back to the memory of those days which made you smile from your heart. Let the experience reign, to give you back that smile that will make your life better today.
What is the power of smiling to me? It is to celebrate life. It is to tell ourselves that we are still alive; therefore, there is hope, dreams to conquer, love to give and happiness to spread. Let’s try, let’s smile despite our problems, let’s rock the brain with sweet motions. Let’s be free!
What makes you smile? I’d love to hear your story.
Tons of Love,
I love traveling, discovering new places, feeling another culture and of course eating tasty, delicious, full of flavours food! This is why, I am going to write about my favourite city in Italy: Venice. Venice is The Mecca of art, of beauty, of rich life!
Venice is romantic!
Venice is Style!
Venice is Milan and Verona on water!
Venice is rich life and love!
I booked a hotel near San Marco Square, so that I could experience living in the heart of the city and benefit from good access to transportation. The first thing I'd say is that Venice is very expensive but soooooo beautiful!
I went to the top of San Marco Cathedral, where you can enjoy an amazing view.
This was on my way to San Marco Cathedral.
I was having a relaxing time.
Near here I had lunch in a restaurant with yet another amazing view.
I went to Lido Island for a swim.
I spent time walking down the tiny streets of Venice, enjoying life and taking lots of photos.
I went to the opera to see Madam Butterfly by Puccini. It was Great! This opera shocked me, surprised me, quivered my heart! So many emotions! Fast, beautiful, fresh! I will say it's a must to do if you visit Venice; it's really something!
On the last day I woke up at 5.30 in the morning to walk around San Marco. There is no people at this time, you can enjoy all the beauty and see the sunrise. Incredible! No words to describe it! Enjoy!
Three days in Venice were a fairy-tale!
That was my dream trip. What was yours? Have you been to Venice? Write me a comment and let me know about your experience.
Blog post: Mike's collaboration
Images by Mike
Hello my darlings!
I am finally here with you, sharing my biggest passions: travel, love, beauty, photography, adventure, lifestyle and fashion. It all comes down to one word - happiness. This is my dream - the reason I travel.
I thought I should start my blog by introducing myself for those of you that still don't know me. So here is a short list of my latest obsessions! (Additionally, I have made a video with the popular '50 things about me' tag.)
After you have read the list and watched the video, come back and let me know what your favorite things are. I, for sure, will enjoy reading about them!
Tons of love,
I lived in London for five years and I got to really fuse with its culture. The friendly cosmopolitan life, fashion and countless places of interest make me rate it the number one city to live in.
“I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” - Rosa Parks
This is exactly what I think about the relationship between us, human beings, and fear. Fear is only a feeling. Feelings and emotions are the base of our thoughts; therefore, we can change our emotions by changing the way we think.
Amor Furtivo (2014)
Amor Furtivo (2014) is a very romantic poetry book and, what is more, it was written by my father who is no longer with us. Luckily, he left me this huge legacy. He was such a gentleman and a romantic! This is exactly what you get in this book.
FAVE MAKE UP
I have to confess that I am not an expert on make up. I was born, and lived most of my life, in very hot humid climate, surrounded by beaches. Wearing make up often was not the cleverest choice. However, when I moved to the city, little by little, I started trying different brands. Some of them cheap, some expensive, but never entirely suited to my needs. A few days ago I came across the Inglot shop, in Moscow, where I live now. The exuberant range of colours and the availability of many products that were just right for my skin type fascinated me. I bought everything I tried on, without hesitating. I must say that I love it.
Peach is a very fresh colour, but it is also warm at the same time. It's girly, always in tune with fashion and perfectly matches my skin tone.
It's absolutely impossible for me to choose. I love food in all its variety. Having to choose is cruelty, lol! What's been really whetting my appetite lately is my boyfriend's Lasagna, which he has taken up to making frequently. It couldn't be more perfect! Maybe it is because he makes it with love?
The New Samsung Galaxy S7
I have only just purchased it and I love it! Don't get me wrong, I am not one of those crazy tech addicted people that lose their heads over the last piece of technology on the market. No, no, no. Yet, when it comes to photography and videos, I love having the best option; thanks to that, I can take beautiful and engaging images. We all know that a good picture can tell a great story and that is the point, to create and to share stories, to colour life, to make it brighter.
Don't forget to share what your favourite things are at the moment. I'd love to hear from you! And if you have watched the video and want to share some random facts about yourself, you're more than welcome to. Let's get to know each other better.
Thank you so much for being present, for sharing, for being my inspiration!
Tons of love,
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